The NSA Women-Safe Network began offering self-defense programs in the River Valley close to 2 years ago, and I've presented a number of danger awareness workshops and seminar talks in churches, schools, and to civic groups. But in talking with people on the street as I go about my daily life, I've found an interesting, yet dangerous, attitude among many women I speak with about rape or assault... "It won't happen to me." NSA Women-Safe Network Sadly, crimes against women are on the rise in the United States, yet most women give no thought to how they would defend themselves against an attacker until it is too late. I have found that most women are not "danger aware" and are too busy living life to take notice of their surroundings and spot potential threats. They are more focused on getting the kids to school, buying groceries, managing a career (or a home) then they are on learning how to defend themselves. Every day we all face unsafe situations, and at times, we are to blame by careless or simply being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Get a picture of yourself when you were younger, preferably when you had just gotten your boobs and they had stopped growing, for comparison. With your bra on, with or without a blouse, stand in front of a mirror that's large enough to see your whole body from the waist up. Stand up straight, and look at your boobs from the front, then turn and look at your right side, then turn to see your left side. As you answer the following questions, refer to your picture to compare yourself now to the way you looked as a teenager. Does your bustline look perky, uplifted, firm and alluring? Be honest. Do your boobs feel like they're supported and uplifted, or do they feel like they're sagging? You should be able to tell if the weight of them is pulling downward. Does it look like your bustline is starting to merge with your waistline? Do you have bulges below your underarms? Those bulges are actually separated breast tissue, and shouldn't be there. Does your chest above your boobs look bony because the weight of your boobs is causing them to sag, giving your more space there than you had when you were younger?
The natural reaction of most guys when they see the title of this article is to put it aside and not read it. In my humble opinion that is a mistake. WHY? Simply put there isn't a guy around who doesn't have a woman in his life that won't benefit from these tips-a wife, significant other, sister, mother, aunt, daughter-get the idea? So guys this is for you too. Read and share with the women in your lives. Let's start with the more obvious. DON'T LOOK LIKE A VICTIM. Let's face it. Most guys who assault women are not all that smart but they are not stupid either. They have developed in their own mind a profile of what they are looking for in a victim. Someone who is walking with their head down and an uncertain gait presents an easy target. USE COMMON SENSE. Everyone has choices on where they go and how they get there. Keep to well lit areas, go with a buddy, avoid dangerous areas and USE YOUR HEAD! TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. Women especially are blessed with an uncanny knack for sensing things.
It's always sad when sisters close in age don't get along. You love each other because you are related, but when you harbor resentments from childhood, it's hard to like each other. Barbara, at 46, is two years older than Yvonne. They live about 30 minutes apart. They have several children each, including eight year old sons who are best friends. "But it's so friggin' hard, " exclaims Barbara, a petite woman with long straight dark brown hair. Yvonne's always complaining that she has to drive further to get the boys, or my son gets more attention than hers, or that my husband and I have more money so we buy our children more. Yvonne counters. "Mom and Dad always help her more than me, and they call her more often. It's just like when we were kids; you always got more sprinkles on your ice cream." "Grow up, Yvonne, " Barbara hisses. Yvonne heaves a deep sigh. "It's easy for you to say. I know it sounds childish, but I can't help that's what I feel. You do get more. You always have.
Women always say, "I didn't know he was like that" when their boyfriends perform acts that cause everyone around them shame. In some cases they really weren't aware of the boyfriend's mischievous deeds, but in other cases women knew well in advance they just hoped he would stop. Most women are not stupid, gullible, dumb, or any other name critics choose to call them for the selections in men they make. For some, they truly had no idea their boyfriend meant bad news for them. The ever-popular question of, "Why did she get herself involved with him anyway?" continues to loom over their heads and the reasons vary depending on whom you ask. Some women may have found out about their problem boyfriend and stayed because of love, status, money and/or power. Others may have stayed because they didn't want to carry the guilt of leaving their children's father over issues they feel could be resolved. Still many women feel they can change him. As long as women continue to believe that the power of sex, money, counseling, personal sacrifice or a host of other strategies to change a bad man will work, they will continue to subject themselves to mental and physical abuse.
Radical feminism states that the defining feature of women's oppression is the societies sexist and capitalist hierarchy. The movement believes that only the eradication of our patriarchy society will give women true equality. The radical identifies that the only way to rid society of patriarchy is to attack the causes of the problems and also to address the fundamental components of society that support them. The radical feminists ideology is, "A male-based authority and power structure and that it is responsible for oppression and equality, and that as long as the system and its values are in place, and society will not be able to be reformed in any significant way." The feminist identified other oppression that is apparent in a patriarchal society. The oppression is also based on gender identity, race, and social class, perceived attractiveness, sexual orientation and ability. The radicals theory of patriarchy recognises the key element is a relationship of dominance and exploits others for their own benefit.
Liberal Feminism has been called the mainstream form of feminism out of all the sub types. It is said that liberal feminism is an individualistic form, concentrating on women having the ability to maintain their equality through being responsible for their own actions and choices. The ideology of the liberal feminist is that women will transform society, through their own personal interactions with the opposite sex. The liberal feminist believes "All women are capable of asserting their ability to achieve equality, therefore it is possible for change to happen without altering the structure of society." The liberal feminist also believe that the equality of men and women can only be achieved by changes being brought through political and legal reform. They want the eradication of institutional bias and implementations of fairer laws towards women. Some of the main issues of liberal feminism include reproductive and abortions rights, sexual harassment, voting rights, education, affordable childcare and affordable health care.
Last month we chatted about how easy it is to put up the walls in our friendships when we have experienced "not so fabulous" women in our lives. Sometimes, depending on the scars both internal and external, we sometimes only allow people to see what we want them to see. It's not always easy putting your self out there emotionally. There are other times that so many of us have experienced a situation in our lives when we really felt like we didn't have anyone to turn to either out of fear of their reaction or fear of exposure. The "What will they think" syndrome sets in. And, in many cases you're right; keep up the walls and don't let people in who are judgmental and incapable of lifting you up, being there and strengthening you in your time of need. But, on the flip side, when you experience these feelings it means you are not properly insulated. Every one of us needs to surround ourselves with the right women. You need an insulation of women that will build you up, be there to listen to the pain and at the same time that will send you soaring and lift your spirits and celebrate life with you.
How do you get that radiant look for Spring and Summer? Spring and Summer 2008 featured lots of pretty new looks. Smokey dramatic eyes are favoured by some designers while bright red lips are other designers' choice. Nude makeup is back, but so is that naturally pretty look that you might see on a radiant bride. Sort of. This season's look is more like a garden nymph. One look that stood out was that green eyed beauty look. That's a head turning look at a garden party. Perfect for spring and summer. Here's how you get that look in just 10 steps. 1. Cleanse, tone and moisturize your face. Get the base right if you want the makeup to look great. 2. Any zits? Hide them with a concealer. Keep your eyes fresh with an undereye concealer is your must. Get them sparkly with eye drops. 3. Apply your makeup foundation with a wet sponge or finger tips. Whichever you are more adept with. 4. Pick a little loose powder with a large powder brush. Dust off the excess and apply it over entire face, including eyelids (keep eyes closed).
Pepper spray will not kill anyone but it will stop an attacker by making their whole face burn! The irritation is so bad, that the eyes will swell up and shut, therefore making them temporarily blind! The pepper spray can make the skin and mucous membranes (nose & throat) so irritated that they will cough and choke. The irritation will last several minutes and give you time to get away. It is unbelievable that such a simple product can help so much in moments as horrifying as this. But there are also 2 important limitations when using pepper spray, which you should keep in mind. First, pepper spray works best when sprayed right side up (just remember that your hairspray won't work if you hold it upside down). Second, if there is too much wind it is not recommended for use, especially if the wind is blowing against you because you might get sprayed back! The best kind of pepper you can get is Pepper Foam (found under Mace on our website). Pepper Foam works best because it is so thick and sticky that it saturates the attacker's face even in windy conditions.