We were always taught not to answer a question with a question, but I am going to do it anyway... "Why wouldn't the one for you be online?" We are talking about millions of eligible singles all over the world! Where else would you find such a selection? (If you seriously know of a place, please let me know! ) You can mix and match to get exactly who and what you want! You can find someone short with a stocky build in California that works in construction. You can find a 6'6" person in Ohio that has a home based business, with all children grown. Let's say you are looking for a single professional, 35-45 years old, with less than 3 children, within 1, 000 miles. (Now you see why I only suggest dating sites with extensive search options! ) With all of these singles to pick and choose from, I do believe the one for you is online. Why wouldn't there be? Can you imagine going in to a top quality club or a church function and literally have millions of singles rowed up... for miles and miles for you to choose from?
You can find the one for you, hopefully online. First, you have to determine exactly what you are looking for in "the one". If you approach online dating with the "club attitude" we're not going to do too well. The club attitude is to let singles wander over to us... chat for a while... see where it goes to from there. If it doesn't look like it is going to go our way, we let them wander off to talk to someone else, knowing eventually someone new will wander over to us and the whole process will start all over again. This is not the approach to take online. In the club we may have to "qualify" the 10 singles that wander over to us. Online we may have to qualify 100's of singles. While wasting time, we are not available for "the one". If you are not interested in someone either romantically or as a friend, do not let them waste your time. Online you will find what I call the "professional time wasters". They aren't just wasting your time, they a wasting a "whole-lot" of singles time!
First, you have to determine whether or not you honestly believe you can find the love for you online. If you believe this, then you can go forward. However, if you are skeptical, online dating isn't for you. But, consider this; how can there be millions of eligible singles online and there isn't one for you? If you are interested in finding the love for you online, you want to set up your profile. While setting up your profile, you want to show off your best qualities. Inside and out. It wouldn't make much sense to put up an attractive photo, then your profile essay questions are blank or even worse... they are boring! You can find the love for you online, but you must be attractive and not just physically. Your profile should be magnetic. Magnetism has very little, if at all to do with beauty. Put a lot of thought into the written portion of your profile. Solicit others opinion before posting your profile. Listen to their criticism. Online, you have literally tens of thousands of online dating sites to choose from.
I think it would be ridiculous to have access to millions of online singles and not be able to find at least one for you! You must first know exactly what and who you are looking for, then start looking! If you really aren't sure what you are looking for you are not in the mental frame of mind to active find "the one". Online, you have access to singles from all countries and continents in the world. You can pick from every occupation, nationality, religion, weight and build on the planet! If you are looking for a 5'10" lawyer in New Jersey, you can find her online. You would be able to find the one for you, if you are willing to take the time to find them. Start by browsing the singles profiles of some of the larger sites. With most of the larger sites, you can browse during your free trial period. Make a list of the singles you are interested in on each site. Make sure the singles you are interested in have logged in within the last 10 days. Based on past experience, if someone hasn't logged in within the past 10 days, there is a good chance they are no longer looking, for what ever reasons.
Why are so many men single? What is wrong with single men? Men who are single must be flirts, as they have no wish to settle down? These are many questions that many women have asked. Many women always thought that single men are not willing to settle down. They must be out there having a good time, and do not wish to have family commitments. Many single men are even being branded as flirts. It is often believed that for a single man, it is cool. This is only true to a certain extent. Not all single men are out there having fun. In fact, statistics have shown that the majority of men have the intention to settle down and get married before they turn thirty years old. However, many men are unable to settle down due to the lifestyle that they are having. Due to long hours at work, many men are unable to meet their love, and thus delay their marriage to a later time. Single men do felt the same way as single women. Many single men felt that they are not attractive enough to attract a girl.
If you are going to put up your profile, you want it to be the best one possible. We have a check list and we have followed it... The User Name is appropriate and tasteful. It is classy, fun, cute, and a little bit risquй! Our photo is done professional, yet has a natural flare to it. We only have two earrings in each ear and only one small facial piercing. You have to admit... it looks good. We are wearing an emerald green blouse that brings out our eyes and the slight auburn tint in our hair. Yes, the blouse shows cleavage but only a "tasteful" amount. Not nearly enough to show the tattoo on our upper midriff that your parents have never seen! Our makeup is the "natural" look. Enough to cover our flaws and draw attention to our best facial features. We resisted the old habit of shaving the eyebrows off and penciling them back in. We also did away with the phony "beauty mark". We left the false eyelashes behind with the "big" hair. No "dated" makeup like the dark lip liner with a much lighter shade of lipstick.
Are you single? Do you believe that you deserve to be in a happy relationship? At the root of many single people's frustration and unhappiness is a feeling of unworthiness, of not deserving to have a happy relationship. This is without doubt the most common limiting, but often unacknowledged, belief that keeps many people reluctantly stuck in their single status. Feeling not worthy of a relationship is the greatest barrier to finding a relationship. This very common form of self-sabotage is often disguised as cynicism, negativity and feelings of futility. I have worked with many people who come to me convinced that their single status is the result of bad luck and a lack of available - and single - partners. As we continue working together, feelings of not deserving a relationship/of being somehow 'bad' at relationships often emerge as the critical factor that is keeping them stuck somewhere that they do not wish to be.I usually find that fear and/or guilt are at the root of this anxiety and despair and that this fear can be summed up as 'I'm not good enough'.
Before you can have an intimate, passionate and exciting romance, the relationship you need to look at is the one you have with yourself. How do you interact with potential partners and people in general? Do you have an optimistic/pessimistic energy, are you too rigid in your expectations? I am a singles coach and I have compiled 5 of the most destructive thought and behavior patterns that single people often repeat when looking for love. The beginning of a relationship is the best time to establish the tone, flavor and boundaries of how you want to be a partner with somebody else. What stops many people from finding a partner are the beliefs they hold about themselves and the expectations they have about how women/men 'should' behave. Being too rigid, ungenerous, judgmental, negative and needy is going to leave you alone or unhappy - possibly both. 1. You spent an awful lot of time complaining about men/women. Misery loves company and indulging in repeated bouts of blame, critique and contempt towards the opposite or same sex is not going to help your chances of finding a good relationship match.
One of the reasons that I enjoy working with single people is that usually the focus of coaching changes from finding 'The One' to making their own lives more fulfilling, inspiring and happy. People realize that trying to fill a void with another person is far less interesting and way less reliable than filling it yourself. Yes, I love to see people finding a partner who makes a difference to their life. I also enjoy seeing someone blossom and become as interested in themselves and how exciting they can make their life as they used to be in finding someone else. Before searching for someone to 'complete' your existence, it is crucial that you have put effort and time in to making your life as full, exciting and interesting as you can. It is easy to get single-minded in the search for a mate and let the rest of your life remain on simmer whilst your search becomes increasingly desperate. If searching for a new partner becomes the focus of your life, what happens to you? What are you doing and who are you being until you find this person?
Being single is a wonderful place to be, because it gives you the chance to get to know you. It can also be a lonely place where you start to doubt yourself. You have a mix of emotions from; I am happy being single, I have no-one to answer to, I can do what I want when I want, and then when you look around all you can see is happy couples and you start worry about not finding someone. Now you worry about becoming lonely as you see the years stretch before you. It does not matter how attractive a person is, or how much attention they get from the opposite sex. The task of finding a long term partner can be daunting. We all look at beautiful people and think they will have no problem meeting someone. This may be true, but who wants to meet and be with just anyone? The fact is it makes no difference how attractive you are, the problem is the same, finding who is right for you is not easy. Then the doubt sets in, you're having a great time being single why wouldn't you, you have freedom and the thought of swapping that freedom for night after night watching videos whilst your friends are traveling and meeting new people, creating adventures and new opportunities.