The whole point with the internet "experience" is to find the one for you. The sooner you find the one for you, the sooner you can get out of the "cyber space jungle"! It can be tiring and nerve wracking after a while. Is she the one for you? One of my mother's favorite relationship expression is: "Mrs. Right will act right! " Period. There is a lot of truth in that... and I have spent many years trying to prove her wrong. To date? Mama is still right... Is she the one for you? You can picture her blending into your world. Not outside looking in, not standing above or around, but totally within your world. Do you want her in your world? If you can answer yes... she might be the one. Does your face light up when her email pops up on your monitor... and you don't care what your friends have to say about the wide grin that begins to spread across your face? When she calls, is it always the right time, no matter what is going on? Can you honestly say yes...? Is she the one for you? Do you think more about her, than "sex" with her?
I don't want to over simplify it but... the one for you? Is the one you can't imagine living without! Any relationship that always feels like an up hill battle... and you never, ever go down hill? She is not the one! How do you know she is the one for you? The right one will act right! She promises to meet you half way... and ends up meeting you at the 70% mark. She says what she means and means what she says! Her life is full without you and makes her world even more interesting. You know she can make it on her own, but you wouldn't dream of letting her live a life without you in it! How do you know she is the one for you? You feel an unspoken need to be in her presence. You can't imagine a day without her in. You meet your challenges and conflicts head on, but never with malice. The thought of her makes you smile involuntarily. You look at her profile picture before you go to bed and you try to force her into your dreams each night. How do you know she is the one for you? She makes you speechless when you really have something you want to say!
When looking for love online and you are faced with thousands of sites, you will have to break the search down into smaller pieces. First, you will have to know exactly what you are trying to find in the way of a relationship. Are you looking for friends right now? A casual, long distance relationship? Are you hoping to be a local "mistress" or "kept" woman? You can't get anywhere without a legible map! Finding love online is no different. Is this the site for you? You won't know for sure until you take the time to check it out. Be willing to invest the amount of time needed to find the site that is perfect for you! The sites that you should consider should have the most "types" of singles you are interested in. Do not try and find someone "acceptable" with the intention of later on "molding" them to your specifications. That is a long drawn out; fruitless task that back fires every single time! Why not invest the time in the begin to find your exact "specification"? Is this the site for you?
You can find him online if you are willing to diligently search for him! First, you have to know what you want. Just being a man is not enough. Make a list of what this "man" should be about. List all of the deal breakers. Until you have a complete list, you are wasting your time. Finding him online... Now that you know what you want in a "man", decide what part of the list is a "must have". "Must haves" are set in concrete. They are not even the least bit flexible. Then you have to make a list of your "options". Options are "extras" we would love to have, but can live without them. Kind of like buying a car... tires, doors, seats, engine, batteries are all "must haves". MP3 player is an option... a sun roof is probably an option... spinning rims are "options". Once your list is completed, you can begin "finding" him. Online there are what I call specialty sites that cater to one specific group or another. Such as Bi-Sexual Singles, Adult Friends, Asian Singles, Black Singles, Interracial Singles, S&M Singles, etc.
First let me ask you this, "what do you know about her?" Besides wanting "her" to be female, what else do you want her to have? You can't find "her "online if you do not know what you want "her" to be like. Do you want a career woman? A single parent...? Tall and athletic...? Short, pixie type? Someone that wants lots of children...? Someone that would be content being a full time wife and mother? All of these things you must know in advance if you really want to find the one for you! Finding her online... Now that you have listed what you want, it is time to start searching for it. Start with the top 5 largest online dating sites that will let you browse as a "guest". Take your time browsing. Don't just look at the pictures... be serious enough to actually read the profiles. Her face may turn you one, but if you read the profile, it might turn you right back off! In most cases, the profile is more revealing than the face! Make a list of the sites and the User Names for later.
You may think that is a "no brainer", but I have had singles ask me... "where can I find love online?" Here we go... Where to find your love online... First, there are a lot of places to find singles, and I am sure you could probably find someone to love at each and every one. But hopefully you are looking to find that special one that is just for you and you only! Decide what type of online dating site you are interested in... There are so many choices! There are "specialty" sites; Adult Friends (helping you hook up with someone in your area for sex and sex only), Black Singles, Asian Singles, Latino Singles, Big and Beautiful Singles (not only is this site for the big and beautiful, it is also for "non-big and beautiful that love to date only the "larger" singles), S&M sites, Dominant/Submissive only, etc. Then you have the "general" sites for what most of us consider "normal" but I'm sure that is debatable! It is usually best to choose more than one site. Now that you know where to find your love online, it is time for you to make that choice and start "finding" the one for you!
You can find everything else online, why not a relationship? That might be a little simplistic and misleading. The truth is, you can find the person you need to start a relationship with online. Now that is definitely possible... But an even better question is this; are you willing to do your part to find the person you would like to be in a relationship with? If not, you are wasting your time and the other singles time. If you really aren't sure you want a relationship, feel free to browse the singles. But don't get their hopes up by contacting them. Just let yourself wander around aimlessly... without a course... without a plan. You have that right... even on the internet, it is a free country! Can you find a relationship online? Yes and the operative word is "find". Are you willing to do what it takes to find a relationship online? If not, then don't blame it on the internet. Suppose you are sitting at a local bar and grill... It's an unusually slow night. A "sort of loser" type wanders over and plops down next to you.
The perfect site is where you find the perfect one for you. You aren't just looking for someone perfect... you want someone that is perfect for you! The perfect online dating site for you is... The one that will allow you full access during your free trial period. A partial access can be deceiving. You may ask the site administrator about certain features and you will no doubt get the same response; "Oh, you have to be a full, paying member to be able to do that! " That makes their site almost useless to you! The perfect online dating site for you is... The one with the most eligible singles that fit your list of requirements. You don't have a list? Then I suggest you start one right now. On the list, you will have 2 columns. The first one is the "must haves" and the second is the "options". The items on your "must have" list are non-negotiable. There is nothing on the face of the earth that can change your mind about the "must haves". If you are the least bit flexible with an item on the list?
Online dating is just like everything else; you will get out, what you put in! If you are just browsing profiles and never making contact? You will not have the best results. What you can expect from online dating, is a forum where you will have access to millions of eligible singles. From your home you are able to visit singles all over the world! All colors, shapes, sizes, nationalities, occupations... you name it? It's there! But unless you are willing to do your part, it really doesn't matter what is available. Your uncertainty and aimless approach will be a total turnoff and you will lose quality singles. You will have no one to blame but yourself. Speaking of blame, a lot singles tell me that just can't find anyone online. My first questions are; "what type of relationship are you looking for?" Uhhh... I'm not sure. "Would you consider a long distance relationship?" "I really don't know. "Are you opposed to any professions?" Well I've had bad experiences with men with a variety of professions.
Absolutely! If you do not believe the one for you is online, I am thoroughly confused! That would mean, out of millions of eligible singles there is no one for you. I sincerely hope that isn't true! You will have to take responsibility for finding the one for you online. They aren't going to leap from your monitor with a notarized certificate of authenticity! You're going to have to do some of the work. First, know what you want before approaching online dating. Please don't make all of the other singles "play 20 questions" in order to find out why you are there and what exactly you want! You will lose a lot of "hopefuls" if you just wander around aimlessly. Yes, the one for you is online. Start looking! I suggest you start by visiting some of the larger dating sites. They will usually allow you to browse their members for free. However, if you can browse for free, please make sure the site shows the members last log in dates. It may appear that one site in particular has many members you would be interested in.