To Love and Be Loved - The Essentials in Establishing Real Relationships

Everything in life hinges on relationship. Relationship building is essential in our life, work and closing sales. In fact, it is everything. Notice some people seem so naturally blessed at being loved and loving others? There is something alluring in them and others are naturally gravitated towards them. What are they doing right?

Wait no further, let's break the code together.

1. Instinctively give, instead of receive The most powerful, influential and successful people you will ever meet always look for ways to do nice things for others. When you meet someone under almost any circumstance, one of the best questions you can ask is this, "Is there anything that I can do for you?" This is best when you have established a certain level of trust and friendship with the other party.

In the event that this sense of trust is yet to be established, the above may turn out awkward and obtrusive. Thus, another way of doing this is to listen to what they have to say through the conversation. Subsequently, decipher what they are saying and assess what you can do to help them.

Some people may not be able to articulate their needs well. At this juncture, it is important for you to be intuitive and always look for ways to put in rather than to take out. The successful man or woman of today is a "go-giver" as well as a go-getter.

2. Be Open and Empathetic

The more that people feel that you are open and empathetic and sensitive to their needs and concerns, the more open they will be to your influencing them positively in some way. However, a caution to note. The motivation behind your actions have to be sincere. Remember people have an in- born "lie detector" and some people will sniff you out in disgust if you are insincere.

The more you can influence others with the power and impact of your personality, the more you will accomplish, and the faster you will accomplish it. This will help you move toward the great success that you desire and deserve.

More importantly, positive externalities are created as you raise the bar for those whom you inspired and touched as well.

Good actions have to be multiplied and the more people whom you can inspire, the more value you can create for everyone. Isn't this a beautiful win- win situation?

3. The Power of "Now!"

Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.

Firstly, look for ways to do nice things for other people. You can start small and do something for your family. Make them feel appreciated by thanking your wife for the wonderful dinner she has cooked for you, hug your kids when they share their daily life with you. Be thankful for everything. Keep doing it until it is ingrained into you like a habit. Gradually, extend this to your friends, customers and colleagues etc. The more nice things you do for others, the better you feel about yourself.

Secondly, take time to really listen to people, especially your staff and coworkers. The more and better you listen to others, the more you are able to create a ring of trust. Learn to be a powerful communicator with listening and influence others with the right words and actions. This is imperative for you to create a positive influence in their life.

I dare you to, achieve these two simple actions. Are you up to the challenge now?

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