How to Say Sorry the Right Way

One of the most difficult things to say is, "I am sorry." Why is that? I it is because saying 'sorry' means that you are admitting wrongdoing. This is difficult to do, because most of our lives we are proving how right we are. Most people would admit that there is no perfect man or woman alive. However, we all strive to present ourselves as being perfect.

If we look at politics, we see finger-pointing and blaming going on. That is the opposite of admitting mistakes. The same happens at home in our personal lives. If mom for example reacts in a wrong way to something that a child does, would she admit wrong or focus on the wrongdoing of the child and use that as the 'cause' for her reaction? For example, "you make me mad" is not really a true statement. The child has no power to 'make' mom mad. Mom has control over her emotions.

So there is a proper and an improper way of saying sorry. Often times if we can get to the point of saying sorry, the wording of our apology might not be in line with a true apology. For example, "IF I HAVE HURT YOUR FEELINGS I apologize." See, the IF word as small as it is, makes a big difference in an apology; it changes the focus on the action, to that of the reaction. In other words, my actions are fine, but if my actions caused a certain negative reaction on your part, then I apologize.

Whether it is a child, friend, employee, employer, or anyone else that you have wronged, the art of saying sorry is really simply; "I am sorry for my actions." Notice that there is no "you" in that apology. Now is it easy to say sorry the proper way? No. The reason why it is not easy is because of this thing called 'Pride'. Pride does not want to take the low road.

I remember a quote from the movie, Pulp Fiction, where the character Marsellus Wallace (Ving Rhames) asked the fighter, Butch Coolidge (Bruce Willis) to take a dive. Marsellus told Butch that he was going to feel a 'sting'. That sting is pride...

Pride always has a sting to it. We tend to think more of ourselves that we ought to and nothing challenges that thought pattern more than apologizing for one's mistakes. Practice saying sorry the right way, and you will soon find that are you able to correct any wrongs inflicted by you, quicker and easier.

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