The 5 Reasons Why People Stop Believing Their Soul Mates Are Out There

Each and every time we break up our idea of a "soul mate" dies just a little. When we fall in love, we are convinced that we have found our one and only partner. However, when we break up, rather than admitting that we were mistaken about the identity of that person being our one and true love, it is easier to accept that such things are a myth. Also, if we are the person who was dumped, it is easier not to believe in them than to accept the fact that we were dumped by our possible soul mate!

The energy, time, and money we need to find a soul mate are enormous. Most of us do not have those resources to find them. Rather, we will tend to lower our standards and compromise on the best person we can find: "Mr/Mrs Right Now" rather than "Mr/Mrs Right". It will drive most of us crazy to realize the thought that we have committed our life to that one person who is not what they should be.

We know that we need to find and get that person but we feel it would be far too risky to sacrifice our savings or mortgage our house to buy a nationally run advert to find that one person. So, to reduce emotional distress and prevent possible financial risk, we abandon our beliefs about them being out there, and learn to live without that true love. Eventually, many of us will get tired of this "half-ass" or "practical" love and get divorced.

The presence of children can also "kill" the idea of us finding a true partner. Those of us with children will offer the excuse that we are "living for the children" and we will pour all of our attention and love into that bond rather than looking for the one person out there who can share the load.

If we don't have children or pets to look out for then our soul mate can become our job. Longer hours at the office, amongst our colleagues, seems to fill that hole in our lives. "Married to the Job" rather than "Married to the Mob"

So, break-ups, resources, risk, children and work are the five reasons for people stopping the belief that their soul mates are out there just waiting in the wings.

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